Do you really think the dating culture is that bad in USA right now?

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1. Dating culture has changed, like it does with every generation, around the world. People are dating online using apps that makes the selection process more superficial. But people were just as superficial before, they just had less options and thus compromised more.

2. It’s changed. The younger generation is settling down later. 20s are the new 30s.

3. I’m old and married, but my perception is that it’s not much different than it ever has been other than marriage rates being down for financial reasons and because long term couples don’t feel the societal pressure to get married as much. Obviously dating apps have changed the landscape some, but it’s not like it’s really changed things that much, just how people initially meet.

4. I don’t think it’s bad. It’s different than it was 20 years ago, but that’s always been true. Dating was different for our parents, as it was different for our parents’ parents and so on. That’s the name of the game.

   There’s no way marriage will be a thing of the past. From both a benefits and financial standpoint, if you plan on living with someone for the rest of your life it’s silly not to marry them. Also I doubt anyone would want to *intentionally* have their children via relationships that were not longterm, marriage or no marriage.

   Also, to say marriage was a surefire thing for our parents is also not true. Something like 50% of marriages end in divorce and that statistic has been true for a long time.

   If anything it’s just more likely people get married later. I certainly am not stable enough at 25 to get married, and most of my friends who are around my age aren’t either. We still have a lot of money to save and a lot of job security to build up. I doubt I will until my 30s. My dad, however, was married, had two kids and was a homeowner by 28 or so, and this was in 1980. I’d be lucky to not be renting by the time I’m 28.

5. I am 26, married with a kid.

   Varies per person.

6. > Is marriage really a thing of the past for this generation?

   In SF, shockingly few people even *want* to get married.

   I’m talking about people who make $300k, independent with everything in their life sorted. You mention marriage and some people recoil in disgust.

   The people with money, secure in their career, and a lot of dating options don’t want to get married. And the people who aren’t feel like they *can’t* get married until they achieve them.