I (23 yo female) have been in a kind of relationship for the past 1 month. We have known each other for 2-3 months before that (met on Tinder). My job now requires me to shift to London (from Australia). I have 3-4 months before I shift.
I have to make a choice between breaking up with him now since we don’t see long distance working or continue being in a relationship for the next 3-4 months until I leave. I really like him and would love to see how this would pan out.
However, if we stay together for the next 3-4 months, I am afraid my feelings for him will intensify and will lead to a major heartbreak then.
Is it better to pull off the bandaid now or to actually see where it goes while we can?
Please help, I am very confused here.
TL;DR: Switching country in 4 months, should I break-up now or decide a week before I leave to see where the relationship goes?
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Cut ties now. If you could keep it casual I would say enjoy but it doesn’t like you’re concerned about it already.
Personal opinion: see it through, then you’ll have no regrets. If it doesn’t work, then at least you tried.
It’s much better than looking back with regrets and wondering what could have been.
Some research studying regrets place one of the top regrets being people not brave/bold enough and ends with the “should’ve, could’ve, would’ve” scenario.
Break up now. It will be better for the both of you.
If you see it through and your mutual feelings deepen, is there any chance you might return short-distance in a “reasonable” time (and by reasonable I mean months to max a couple of years): either with you going back to AUS or him following you to the UK, provided moving LDR works for a while??
What does he say to all of this?