She just broke up with her emotionally abusive ex boyfriend yesterday. When I broke up with my last boyfriend I felt so free because I was ready. 3 months later I still get sad or upset from time to time but I can let go.
I don’t know how to react or help with my sister. When she cries over him I remind her he wasn’t a good guy and it seems to make it worse. She doesn’t want to go out or do anything, she just wants to lay in bed and cry. But she calls me and repeats the same thing over and over and I want to help her feel good about this.
Because he was emotionally abusive, is she going to obsess over this for a long while? She was already obsessive over him when they WERE together. She says she can’t control herself, she’s very self aware but she just starts doing things without realizing (like texting him, checking his snap maps, his instagram). How can I help her?
TL;DR – how do I help my sister get over her abusive ex who she is/will obsess over.
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Stop trying to fix her and let her feel what she needs to feel. It’s only been ONE DAY and she’s still very raw and terrified and she doesn’t need people telling her that she’s wrong to have FEELINGS about what she’s just gone through.
Gently encourage trauma therapy if you can.