So my boyfriend and I (F) are in our mid 20s and have been together since our early teens. Our sex life hast vastly improved over the years and only seems to be getting better. We love to explore new kinks/positions all the time but our fave remains missionary. (Tbf my #1 is cowgirl, but he thinks missionary is the best. I put it as a close 2nd).
FYI, my BF is the most reserved person I know. He rarely shows emotions and tends to be quiet. (Rough childhood, difficult upbringing. He started going to therapy last year).
A few days ago we were having sex and he was on top. I was ovulating and during those days I tend to be waaaay hornier. So we were making out as well and I was begging him to cum inside me/telling him that I love him.
I’m not sure what happened exactly but he seemed to have gotten the nut of his life (which he later confirmed). And he started crying! Not bawling but I saw his eyes welling up with tears (enough tears that drops landed on me). I got very worried and asked if he’s okay, he smiled and just kissed me. I’ve never seen him cry, in or outside the bedroom. It was a little shocking.
The next day I brought it up and he clearly felt awkward. I got the impression that he didn’t want to talk about it so I dropped the subject. But he’s been unusually affectionate since that night.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot and just want to tell him that it’s totally OK to show feelings in the bedroom. In fact I’m so much more attracted to him now. What’s a good way to tell him that he shouldn’t be ashamed or worried at all?
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I made my ex cry the same way several times, the orgasms were just overwhelmingly intense lol
I used to cry sometimes after very intense orgasms with an ex I had very strong feelings for. I’m a person that’s not usually emotional too, and it freaked my ex out. If he’s the same, replicate the experience and hold him/be intimate while he’s crying so he feels comfortable and cared for. If he’s really not comfortable with expressing feelings, don’t bring it up outside sex. Accept it as a part of sex, maybe take it as a compliment, and have some intimate time after he comes while he’s crying. If he’s anything like me, it just means he cares for you a whole lot. Be sensitive and don’t bring it up until he does.
Seems to me the therapy is working. Orgasms can be a very powerful emotion and he finally let his emotions show.
Nothing bad here. Don’t push him to talk about it if he doesn’t want to at this time. I kinda think everything you described is a compliment to your relationship.
There’s actually a crying fetish I think where one partner can’t achieve arousal unless the other is crying! True statement. Dacryphilia. Would not work for me though. Not even. There’s a pretty hilarious clip.on it in a movie. The girlfriend even lost her man’s dog on purpose to make him cry!🤣