my bf and i have been together for about a year, and i’ve been wanting to try some new things with him like me receiving anal. he’s open to trying new things, but has expressed that he’s nervous. he’s been pretty open sexually (threesomes, ONS, etc) but hasn’t really explored methods of pleasure i gues you could say?whereas I have done plenty of anal, role play, bdsm, etc. i’ve stated explicitly that i don’t want to do anything that isn’t mutually enjoyable and he generally responds with no i want to try, it’s just new, i’m intimidated, i’m nervous etc.
I’m interested in opening our relationship so that he can pursue the things that excite him, but I also want to know how we can foster a deeper sexual relationship between us that would satisfy me.
edit: my bf is ftm, i am nonbinary. we are both vers.
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Do a want will won’t list with him.
Make your lists then compare them. Do everything that you both want/will and then nothing either person wants
I highly recommend checking out the [Spicer App](https://spicer.app/). It’s a swipe -style sex idea matching app. My partner and I enjoy using the chat rooms to talk about fantasies and send porn clips linked to whichever kink match we’ve made.
Set a safe word and just got for it.