I notice that when I’m about to meet a friend, I would usually have a specific emotion (joy, tiredness, etc…) but when it’s time to meet and I see the other person, I start mirroring their emotions, idk why. E.g. if I was happy and they were anxious, I would start being anxious and not talk much, then when they crack a joke or a compliment, I would become joyful and playful. Is this good/normal/healthy in order to have good social skills?
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i wish i knew too
Some mirroring is good, don’t be a mirror the entire time
If someone is emotional (sad, upset), then it works like wonder
I guess it can help the situation a lot if you can show similar emotions towards the same thing but standing out and having your own opinion on something, going into a situation with a different emotion than others is what makes you interesting and shows you character.
Stay yourself and don’t turn into something you think other people would like to see.
From experience, I see it as a good thing because it feels nice to be in the same boat as someone else. That said, don’t *force* yourself to change your mood for the other person because that’s not what’s *natural* to you. Here in socialskills one of the top advices is to be yourself 😉
I think what you described is simply you being genuine, because it’s what you do by instinct. You get affected easily by what others feel and that’s totally normal for a lot of people!