What is the best way to tell a date in a diplomatic manner that you (male) are snipped without sounding vulgar (like you don’t want to be safe and not use a condom) plus also want to be considerate by conveying that you don’t want to waste a woman’s precious time if she does wants kids?

3 comments

1. Just ask up front what their goals are on the kids front. Or just bring up that you cant have kids.

2. I think we should normalize saying what contraception methods we use or procedures we have had done. It is not vulgar. Nothing is wrong with it. Most average people go on dates to find, among other things (if they can get those things too), a sexual partner.

3. You could mention some friends of yours and their kids, and then say something along the lines of *they’re a great family, but having kids is not really for me*. The issue is you *won’t* have kids, not *why*.