Hi all. I really need some insight and help. I’m dating a guy for 2.5 months. We have been on so many dates to movies, dining, outdoors. He opened up to me and told me he really likes me but is afraid to take this further. Because of past unresolved issues, he has problems with trust and letting people “in”. He he doesn’t know if he can ever open up again. But yesterday we face timed, for the first time. He told me I make him feel something he doesn’t usually feel, like he wants to hold me all night in his arms. I haven’t seen him in 2 weeks because of his fear but yesterday he told me he wants to keep seeing me, just doesn’t know when. I want to help him and I keep showing him that he can trust me. He told me he doesn’t want to hurt me. I don’t know if he changed his mind. Has anyone dealt with a guy like this before? I’m willing to make it work. Please don’t tell me to give up. We also haven’t been intimate yet. So I don’t think it’s that. Thanks.
TL;DR: dating a guy for 2.5 months. He says he might not be able to let anyone in. Has trust issues. Please advise.
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His trust Issues are an Internal physiological problem borne out of the Insecure attachment style he Inherited In childhood as a consequence of poor nurturing by his primary caregiver.
So, you want to be this guy’s psychologist AND his girlfriend? Why?
He didn’t change his mind in 2 weeks. If you would like to hang in there, by all means, keep doing so. However, he’s also telling you about himself.