I’ve been trying to put myself out there more. I’ve sent messages to a couple girls through social media. What typically happens is I swipe up and make a joke and try to start a conversation. They only respond once and then leave me on read. Is there something I could do to get better responses? Should I keep trying and send a message in a couple weeks? I’ve been trying to stay away from dating apps but would it be easier to message girls on dating apps then social media?
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Ask them out immediately. Stop trying to start a text conversation. Stand out from all the other dudes who spend most of their time texting the woman and go for the date. If she actually is interested in you, she will accept. If she isn’t, then she was looking for attention more than anything. Seriously, why swipe on someone you are interested in on a dating app and not actually go out?
Dating apps are a really imbalanced experience for men versus women. Women get inundated with matches, messages, etc and are more likely to not reply because of that. Guys are more likely to follow up on messages. This is not a scientific study by the way, just observation!
Anyway, ideally you want your first message to be interesting, relevant to that person, and witty enough to encourage more chat. “Hey”, “how are you?” and variants of that will not win or keep anyone’s attention. Jokes can work, but only if they’re not obvious or sleazy.
Finally, it’s a numbers game and the numbers are not on men’s side. So you just have to accept sometimes you’ll get drowned out.
Please tell me you’re not seriously messaging random girls on Instagram.
You’re not, are you?