Hello, excuse my rambling but idk anymore. See, i have this coworker who recently started behaving differently around me. We’ve always been friendly but its kinda different now. She stares at me, teases me, stands very close to me, touches my shoulder, always asks if i’m gonna be at gatherings and she even wants to organize something for my birthday that is coming up and she jokes about doing a striptease for me.
It might seem obvious, but firstly, we’re coworkers and i still need this job at least for a while and i don’t want drama there. Secondly, idk specifics and it has been a few weeks, but she has an exclusive fwb, but i heard she was having trouble with him. Thirdly and most importantly, our lifestyles are very different. She is a party girl that goes to clubs every weekend, has had very many hookups, tattoos and piercings etc. Me on the other hand, i’m a nerd that likes to do mellow stuff, maybe go to the pub, hang with friends etc., i’ve had two hookups in my life and i felt used afterwards, no tattoos or piercings etc. I’m looking for a genuine relationship.
I’m not judging her for her lifestyle, she is an awesome person and i like hangin out with her, but idk if it would even make sense to ask her out even tho our lifestyles and goals wouldn’t mesh well?
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Yeah…if you’re looking for a genuine relationship then stick to your values and focus on your work. Hopefully you’ll come across someone with similar values as yourself. From what I’m reading, you’re just horny lol.
It sounds risky from the start with you having very different interests which means you should probably avoid it. If she gets more direct with you just tell you you find her attractive but you don’t think your lifestyles would mesh well and you don’t want to complicate things at work. If she hints towards a hook up just tell her you’re not really into that and prefer having a companion