Ive been stuck in the poverty cycle since I moved out at 18, working close to full time since I was a teenager. After years of enduring minimum wage jobs when I know in myself that I have the potential to do more and do better, I just cant go back to them now that my health isnt good anymore. I cant ask my family for help.
Im still young which is the most frustrating to me. My health got bad a few years ago and since then ive been on disability assistance for mental and physical health issues. I know that my issues stem from the inability to properly care for myself and meet my basic needs. The times that I try to say; “fuck it, ill spend an extra $X on proper food so I can feel better and have more energy to be able to work hard”, even when hard budgeting, I just end up in the same cycle and I feel there is no way to escape it. My health goes back to shit and I cant keep doing it.
I dont want to lose friends anymore because im not able to do things, or anxiety sets in and I cant even live a basic life. I want to work hard, I want to work towards the life I want, but I have no way of getting back on my feet with inflation of food costs and rent.
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The friends Ive made genuinely care about me as a person and my wellbeing. They are more recent friends but it is a real connection with people who have made me happier than ive been in a long time. They live further away and id love to move there because it truly made me happier, a simple place in the outdoors where I feel at peace. I stayed with them as a “mini vacation”, sharing the cost of groceries, cooking meals together and just enjoying outside.
I feel like I could really work towards bettering my life in that kind of environment, I dont want anyone to cover me for money, I just need a better situation where I can actually make changes. I dont know if im in any position or how to ask friends for the kind of help like moving with them. I just want a better situation because I cant live like this anymore.
TLDR; I dont know what to do, I just need help to get back on my feet before I fully give up and have used all the options available to me already. I want to ask to move with friends and pay my share but I feel I am in no position to ask that, ive never been comfortable asking people for help.
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Focus on you before focusing on your friends lol, friends are friends but you need to take care of yourself first and foremost ♥️ work on your health, your career and you’ll find people who’ll just stick
You seem more worried about losing your friends than getting out of the poverty cycle or improving your health
Yeah, I hope everything improves for you.. it really sucks to be in such a stressful situation
Something I think it’s important to do things piece by piece so you actually follow through with things (at least for myself, kinda like easing in).
Going for walks really helped me when I got diagnosed with a chronic illness with the mental aspect that having health problems like this imposes. Especially when the weather’s nice it really does wonders. It also gets me exercise (cause I work a super sedentary job and it’s a little isolated when you work from home 4/5 days) and I’ve been trying to go to the gym more too LOL
But if you’re trying to follow a budget it seems like you’re on track!! I hope you can do it
Your life is what u make it. Want to rise above where you are now. See it believe it and do it. Say I’m going to have a great day every day. Concentrate on what you do right. Never before in history is there a job market like there is now. Employers are begging people to fill positions. Put on your best clothes or go to goodwill or an estate sale and get you some good clothes to dress for success. Stop putting yourself down and expect great things to happen. Your so young have your life ahead of you. Surround yourself with positive people. Walk for excercise try to eat healthy. Help others that are in need. When your helping others your problems get smaller. Let’s get this thing kickstarted. Are you with me?