Do you expect your SO to always take your side? Why or why not

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1. Lol no. I’m not always right.

2. Not always but fairly often. If my SO isn’t on my side, who will be? At least he needs to take my side in public so we look like a united team.

3. No, I’m not always right

4. Depends on context and situation. I expect them to support my autonomy, consent, and right to make choices about my own life. I don’t expect them to blindly support me if I’m factually wrong or doing something that would harm others.

5. No, he has a mind of his own and has experience in areas that I know nothing about.

6. Absolutely not. I expect my SO to feel comfortable to call me out if I’m wrong or acting like a biggot. I wouldn’t want anyone’s especially my SO letting me make a fool of myself or be mistaken.

7. On the contrary. I expect him to be the one who tells me when i’m wrong. I would not like him to do it in public in a harsh way though

8. No, he has his own mind but I expect him to always be respectful even if we disagree. And he should call me out if I’m having an argument with someone else and I’m in the wrong, but it depends on the situation and context.

9. In terms of opinions, no, he’s his own person with his own opinions. In terms of standing up for me, yes, partners should stand up for each other.

10. Honestly? In front of others yes. If were alone not at all but I need my backup. But usually our opinions are very very close so there’s never been any issues. Both very fair & reasonable people.

11. No. I expect that we both encourage each other to do better, grow, learn, consider other points of view when we are wrong and have a unified front when needed.

12. No, I’m not always right. I won’t always be on his side either.

    But context is also important.

13. No, he’s his own person with his own opinions.

14. In public yes. Correct me when I am wrong, but don’t embarrass in public by not having my back.

15. I want them to take my side publicly 100% of the time.

    In private, they’re free to say what that really feel and we’ll process those feelings then.

16. No, but I expect him to not humiliate me in public by telling me I’m wrong in front of people. Just like a man would. It’s basic politeness for partners. I’m well aware I’m not always right.

17. Definitely not. I expect him to calmly and respectfully tell me I’m wrong. But I do expect him to do so at home and not in public or with friends/family. (Except if either I am making a complete ass of myself and/or he would look like a jerk taking my side).

18. Noo. But I expect him to correct me in private and not humiliate me in public.

19. I do expect it. But of course if I was being particularly unreasonable or just straight up wrong, I would expect him to be respectful and correct me in private. I would do the same for him. We joke and tease of course but I would never outright humiliate or embarrass him in front of others.

20. I want them to take the time to *understand* my side, but if I’m in the wrong, I want them to also sensitively help me see that. I think SOs would help to shape each other for the better. Although not if they are unable to do it without patience and sensitivity.

    Edit: This does not include subjects like my consent, bodily autonomy or right to live free from control/fear/violence, abuse, etc.

21. Usually yes. Especially in terms of his family or if his mom is giving me a hard time, absolutely

22. In public, yes! In private, no.

    For the public part, if my point is valid I mean. If I’m being a total AH, please put me (gently) back in my place

23. No. I can be wrong, too. I don’t want him taking my side if that’s the case.

24. Be right and teach me stuff I don’t know. If I’m completely loosing it, help me calm down until I can apologize. Call me out on my shit.
    The only thing I don’t want at my side is an abuser, a man without character, an hypocrite or a traitor. I just ask for him to have a bit of compassion and try to see where I might come from.

25. Yeah- I’m a ride or die person and I expect the same 🙂

26. No. Because I’m not always right.

27. When I’m wrong or need to consider another point of view, I want a partner who will be honest with me. I don’t want a yes-person who blindly agrees with me.

28. Sometimes. My SO is quite often the voice of reason. He will take my side 100% if I’m in the right, but he’s really good about making me look things over again. He’s not shutting me down, just asking me to pause and reflect.

29. No. But I do expect them to communicate clearly and preferably kindly when I’m wrong. I know I’m not always right and I deserve and need correction from time to time.

30. No. I want my partner to feel comfortable calling me on my crap. I just need it to be done privately and calmly.