My parents both think its weird that I dont go out more often and do teenager stuff like partying as they always say ‘when i was your age I was always out partying!’.
It’s not even true I do have about 4 friends but I don’t really meet them very often outside of school so most of the time I am just at home. It’s just humiliating that my own parents are telling me I’m friendless. My dad also said I should try harder to make more friends and meet new people, it’s not like I don’t try I just never really have more than 3ish friends at a time. My personality just doesn’t seem to gel with more extroverted people as most of my friends are more introverted people. I don’t know why as my sister seems to be more extroved than me I don’t know what happened. I just wish I was the type of person who makes friends effortlessly although I’m happy that I at least have a few friends.
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I bet your parents are Gen X like me. “Partying” was a huge thing for us. It was also a huge waste of time imho. Tell your folks I said to get off your case.
Well first of all, whatever story you tell yourself it will be true. So if you tell yourself the story that you are an introverted loser, it will become your reality.
Your dad means well, but he is also inadvertently shaming you, making you believe it is not okay to be less social and more shy. This just add fuel to the problem.
I’m 32, have 0 friends, and am doing just fine. It’s your life not your parents, so live it how you feel comfortable. They are probably worried to some extent because they can’t understand how you’re fine without all the friends they had growing up so just try and meet them halfway by letting them vent but don’t take it to heart. Maybe they also just want you gone more for some alone time (again don’t take it personal). You’ll be fine if you go with your gut and do what makes you feel fulfilled. I hope this helps!
I’ll be your friend 😋❤️
My grandpa always tells us in making friends
Choose Quality over Quantity,
I’m 29 and have always been mostly introverted like you. I’ve done just fine in life, and don’t drink alcohol or ‘party’ whereas my friends who’ve been in the party scene are still partying and have alcohol problems and look terrible, lol. Keep doing what makes you happy with your life, the rest will sort itself out.
Live with your life with fullest cuz it always on you. You’ll be fine.
Sounds like you’re just introverted. Do your parents understand the friend differences between extroverts and introverts? I feel like that’s all they need to know.
You have to consider that in the old days, they had less technology or things to do at home.
They were almost forced to go out to get some fun and make friends. Nowadays, we (as society) have a lot of options to create social connections. (Including the virtual ones)
Also, you can have different stages in your social life. Maybe at the university you’ll meet a lot of people and make new friends.