Where do I cum?

I know the way me and my ex did it but like… what’s standard for first time sex with each other? Is there a customary place? Do I ask where she wants?

Is this some normal interaction to ask or is it assumed I will cum ______?

This sounds so dumb but I don’t want to mess it up

8 comments

  1. There is no standard. Use your words like an adult and ask your partner what they want.

  2. You cum into the condom because if you’re having first time sex with someone you definitely want to protect yourself. Also, if you are talking oral, just ask her if you can cum in her mouth or not.

  4. When it comes to the act of sex, nothing really changed in 10 years, maybe more rimming and anal play but that’s it…. Dating has turned to a world of shit thanks to the internet, best of luck there.

  5. If you’re having sex you cum in the condom. If she’s giving you a blow job you give her the courtesy warning, “I’m getting close”, and if she stops you get the condom. If she doesn’t stop you cum in her mouth. You do it in a position where she has some control over taking it out of her mouth. The above all assumes you’re going to play nice.

  6. You cum in the condom. You don’t just blow your load on or in someone’s body without both discussing and agreeing to it first.

  8. A good rule of thumb is always to let the other person know you’re close as it gives them the opportunity to tell you what they want. If they don’t give you a clear signal (ex. if they’re giving you head and you say you’re close and they just keep sucking, they want you to finish in their mouth) you can follow up with “where do you want it?” (bonus because it’s super fucking hot imo)

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