I have all my life been in touch with my group of friends, but at some point I got a bit separated because I changed schools. After a while we started hanging out again, there were new additions and it didn’t feel the same
I have been with them for years now, and for the last few months I have felt like I don’t belong there. There’s this one narcissist who keeps making plans with some of the group (3-4) when we are 7-8. My friends don’t like him but for some reason they won’t tell him, and only me and another dude tell him what bothers us (dude’s envyous, arrogant and a snob). On top of that, they keep calling each other brothers (those 3-4), and leaving us apart (the other guys are don’t have any dignity so they just follow their assess).
My problem is that I started working 3 weeks ago and they haven’t asked anything about me. So I don’t know if it’s normal, if I should shake it off and try to stand the toxicity in between or what. Me and the other dude tried explaining to the whole group the toxicity shouldn’t keep going, but they took it as a joke, because they are afraid of expressing their inconveniences.
I have been feeling a bit lonely (mostly because it’s summer), and even though it’s something I can stand, I don’t know if I’m in the wrong or if I should move on.
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Hmm, well, it’s a little hard to say without knowing the people involved!
But in general, there is nothing wrong with a sub-set of a larger friend group. Human nature means that some people will be closer to other people, and not click so well with others as friends. So I don’t see making plans with 3-4 of the group instead of the full 7-8 as a problem. That’s just how things work somethings. If you want the full 7-8 people together, it’s kind of on you to plan for things that include everyone.