Let’s just say life has really shit on me the last 2 years. I was finally feeling like I was making progress and then up popped the cherry on top, covid. First time I’ve had it, I’m young and triple-jabbed but feel the joint worst I’ve ever felt in my life.
I almost broke earlier with the pressure of everything crushing my head, both literally and figuratively.
I figure there’s loads of people on here who have overcome health obstacles, or other enormous struggle.
Thanks
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When you’re going through hell, keep going. Or Henely’s Invictus work for me
Life’s not about how hard you can hit. It’s about how many times you can get hit and keep on going – Rocky
This year I’ve been through hell. My closest family member died and I alone had to deal with all her estate. I just kept going , working through each day. And 4 months later I’m nearly done. There’s tines I realise I’m still grieving, and I’ll do things like go to ring her, or when I have a day off i think I’ll go and visit her….then realise I can’t.
I’m a single parent working 2 jobs and these rises keep adding pressure. But you just got to keep on going. Shoulders back, head up. But talk about how you feel too
Don’t let the bastards grind you down.
Try mindfulness, sounds like a load of bollocks but helped me a lot when I was going through a shit time.
Particularly useful if you have an overactive brain and constantly overthink everything.
Don’t try to deal with things alone. I’m sure you have friends and/or family who you trust. Talk to them, be frank, they may be able to help but if not venting your spleen at an actual person can help quite a bit.
Trying to carry the burden of physical, mental or other issues silently is a sure fire way to destroy your mental health.
When life has hit me hard, and man has it been hard, try to focus more on the little things in life. Feeling sunshine, enjoying a game, singing your lungs out to your favourite song.
Try to look at those small things everyone experiences day to day instead of the bigger picture, focus on the happy, the joyous.
Goes a long way when the overall picture of life looks bleak.
Mate, I was in a very similar place myself just before covid and when covid hit that was it I felt like I was never gonna go anywhere and didn’t see a point in trying , sounds corny but a good mate of mine gave me a book filled with poems by a man called Mike Garry I don’t think I’m over exaggerating when I say it’s saved my life. I seen Mike live a few months ago and got to thank him in person. I’ll link you a reading of one of my favourites [Show Me Hope](https://youtu.be/ZAsClD6Add4)
Keep as busy as you can. IME activity is often about the best solution you can come up with to tough times, though some of it will still be of no apparent benefit.
Be kind to yourself. Think what you’d say to a close friend if they were feeling this way
Mindfulness and CBT/REBT tools are amazing. If you really want to fork out for a bit of CBT therapy you can. Quite a few employers provide access to employee assistance portals which may provide up to 6 or 8 counselling sessions.
There’s also Mind UK and lots of other charities that can help.
Other than that, there’s YouTube, Ted talks and podcasts.
Just do a search for CBT tools, mindfulness, REBT.
How it works… Mindfulness teaches us how to acknowledge the good and bad stuff, but to not dwell on anything for too long. That way we don’t get caught up in self pity, guilt, etc and any feelings that may contribute to negativity, that could in time lead to anxiety or depression.
CBT gives us scientific tools to help problem solve, self coach, and empower us with understanding our choices nd how they affect us.
It’s pretty cool stuff. Did wonders for me 🙂
Have a good cry, let it all out and then pull yourself together and realise it ain’t as bad as you think it is. Give up or don’t
This too shall pass.
Thanks for the replies everyone. It shows there’s still some good in the world despite the constant conveyor belt of modern living. It’s always the most sympathetic who seem to get shit on. I’ll pull myself out of this.
When something specific is getting you down think to yourself “what can I do to help the situation?”
If there are practical steps you can take then work on them and you will feel a little better with each accomplishment. It doesn’t have to be anything large, even little things soon add up.
If there is literally nothing you can do then you have to try and distract yourself from the situation as things will play out anyway regardless of what you do.
“It too will pass.”
Pretty much most things are only temporary in nature. I’ve got a self inflicted disability, had it over 30 years now and it ended a career. It’ll always be with me to some extent but it’s not the same every day, some are good, some are bad. The bad days pass.