I (21F) reached out to my ex (21M) 8 months after the breakup. I was immature and toxic so he dumped me after being patient w me many times. Shortly after the breakup I sent him an apology text and wished him happiness. He replied, wishing me happiness as well. Recently, I reached out to my ex, asking to hang out when he’s free. I wasn’t expecting to get back together. I just wished he’d be in my life again, even if that was selfish of me. Throughout the 8 months, he was always in my mind and I finally got the courage to talk to him again. He accepted. Though he told me he got covid so it wouldn’t be any time soon.
We didn’t talk after that convo and its been a week. I want to ask him how he’s been, tell him i’ve missed him, and give explanations on my behaviours, but as a toxic ex, Im afraid he’s gonna think that I’m being bothersome and pathetic. I want to be extra careful to not mess up this time, but I also feel like he is completely uninterested in me and it’s just me wanting to maintain a connection. I can’t bring myself to talk to him casually like I used to. I’m just waiting until he texts me first upon recovery and my overthinking tendency is driving me nuts 🙁
tldr; I reconnected w my ex 8 months after the breakup. Should I be honest and express my feelings to him even if I was the toxic ex and the dumpee or should I draw boundaries to not repeat the same mistake again?
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The number one trait of a toxic relationship is being on and off again. It’s a cycle of toxicity and you’re right in the middle of it right now…
It’s time to move on op.
You said he accepted your invitation but he’s sick right now? I would wait until he’s better and revisit
At most you could text him and ask how his feeling and if his finding covid bad. That’s a friendly friend text.
Telling him how you miss him and all your relationship drama toxic issues is not friendly friends that’s you dumping trauma on him.
Why go back to an ex?