Hey y’all, m21, and although it’s slowly getting better, I have a very tight pelvic floor. One symptom of this can be premature ejaculation, not strictly the mental anxiety kind, but one mixed with actual physical capability of my muscles.
Last 2 times I’ve had PIV with someone, both of them like 20 seconds in were like “harder” and I go harder and they’re like “HARDER” but then I just cum. And then we wait a sec and they’re like let’s keep going but I feel like it’s not enough of a break, cause I just get soft pretty quickly.
I really would prefer to eat my partner out but during foreplay when I do that they’re just like “I want you” and I don’t know if that means I’ve just turned them on enough or they think I’m bad at eating out or if they think they know what I want and are trying to put me first.
Yes I know, “communication”, but these were one night stands, not that easy in the moment. Also neither of them complained, but I just want to last longer to feel better about myself. So when they ask me to go harder, should I do that cause it’s what they’re asking or should I keep my pace so I can last longer?
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A lot more women than you think are flattered by a quick shot. Just sayin. But one thing I have found is pinch your nipple (Thank you Reddit). It gives you a physical distraction that helps to pull you out of the moment enough to stave off the hair trigger. Although I’m not a doctor so your specific physical issue, sorry I got nothin. But I hope I helped.
If she says “ go harder “ I go harder no matter what happens. But tbh my wife is fairly quiet during love making so if she said that I’d prolly blow my load before she gets it out of her mouth bc I thing that’s hot AF
Pull back, grab the base of my cock, hard to interrupt and reduce the sensation while telling her to beg for it first.
That usually buys me enough time to reset myself before continuing. I just put her into a holding pattern for a few seconds. I can slow my reaction and at the same time, push her excitement higher. It’s a win win
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I say “yeah you want me to fill you up baby?” Then look her in the eyes and slam her until either she comes or I lose my erection after cumming 😵💫😍🤤
Scream your head off and make it super passionate.
A technique that worked for me was to do arithmetic in my head. Just a string of 6×2=12, 12-3=9, 9×7=63, etc. Gotta balance it carefully to stay away from the edge but not lose the boner. Sometimes just remembering the last number was the right amount of distraction.
That’s what I call….a sticky situation.
Cum.
I do math in my head and pretend I’m having a conversation with my grandma lol I know it’s crazy but it’s helped me develop amazing stamina and I really don’t have to do that too much anymore unless I want to keep going and feel like I might cum
Even at 38, I still have those times when I’m just too excited, horny, etc. and it’s difficult to hold back the money shot. Have you tried having your partners give you oral for a bit first? Then switching to oral on them?
That’s what I frequently do. It’s all part of getting my dick “used to” the stimulation. Too much too fast, and sometimes that’s all she wrote. But if I can get past the first 10 minutes of stimulation, I begin to settle down, adapt to the stimulation, and then she’s getting fucked for basically as long as she wants. Sometimes I’ll even just tell her during. I’ll enter her slowly while making her maintain eye contact, which makes her gush, then as I begin slow, full-length thrusts, I’ll just say “your pussy feels so good…I’m going to need a few minutes to go slow and get used to it…but then I’m going to fuck you up/pound you/fuck you GOOD/whatever kind of thing she likes to hear that tells her she’s about to have the soul fucked out of her body.
This usually kills two birds with one stone: 1. gets me used to the sensations 2. drives her absolutely wild. This is because of how I phrase it all. It’s all said with confidence. “I’m fucking YOU. You’ll take it however I see fit…but I’m going to take care of you.” Saying that without saying it.
Try all of that and see if you can hold back a bit longer.