So ive been on dating apps for about 5 months if not more and it seems like theres not a single person that can hold a conversation. When I text I typically try to make it somewhat lengthy and then try to add questions or something to give the other person to reply to. Ive always hated when people give 1 word or 1 sentence replies that you cant really reply to. But even doing this I tend to get back responses like “thats cool” or “nothing”. It also seems that I communicate with people for a few days and then suddenly they vanish.
I really hate the fact that you almost have to talk to multiple people in order to effectively find a match or youll end up being disappointed all the time.
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It’s partly a numbers game. The more people you talk to, the greater your chances. Also their bio can sometimes give you an idea of how they’ll respond.
The same happens to me.
For me, I’d say focus on arranging the date as well as the chat. It can be disheartening to put a lot of effort into chatting, only for the first date to not go so well, so I think some people hold back.
I feel your pain there. Only thing I can tell you is block them. I hate lame personalities.
If you’re determined to just stick to one person then the advice I would give you is to move on as soon as you can see they are not investing in the conversation…dry, one word and no effort conversations, no thank you! I do this too even though I do chat to multiple people. So don’t keep going with a dead end chat that’s making you feel rubbish. You’ve also got to try and remember that this is going to take time as well. Like in real life you’re not going to come across multiple people every other day you have a connection with. It’s hard going though. I’ve got dating/app fatigue too at the moment, but you’ve just got to try and keep a level head with it as much as you can and take breaks when needed