So, I turn 38 next week and by societal standards, by now I should have been married, have a kid or two, etc…
BUT, I simply don’t want that, and I’m not actively trying to seek out a partner because I really am content with myself. This isn’t a self pity or “self empowerment” type of thread, but it’s interesting to look at perspectively.
I’ve met a ton of women who I’m sure it could have blossomed into marriage, but I wasn’t wanting that — I work a lot, my job keeps me preoccupied — and I’m totally fine with that. I should preface too that I take care of myself, go to the gym, have a nice place, and don’t have any excessive / existing baggage that holds me back, nor do I carry any bitterness from ANY past relationship or hook up.
What I do find interesting is being a male and single in your later years you’ve basically avoided divorce, huge stress, etc — but also, it’s like driving on a highway and you’ve kept driving when GPS told you to turn right (meaning explore this possibility with someone that could become long term) — and so you just keep on driving.
Do I ever see myself getting married? As of now, no. Could it happen? Sure I guess, but I don’t live with the intent of trying to seek that from every new person I meet.