Why do failed talking stages feel so bad?

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1. you probably got your hopes up

2. It’s very common to when you meet someone to take that little you had and imagine an entire future and fill in the gaps with idealized views. Then when you lose it you feel like you lost something so special and someone that was so right, etc….

   You need to work on not making assumptions, not putting people in a pedestal and idealizing, not emotionally investing too soon.

   But it’s very normal! Takes some self work.

3. You’re too attached to outcomes.

4. Maybe you feel bad because you spoke to her for a few weeks and you never asked her out. When it comes to dating, people aren’t looking for pen pals. You should be asking out a woman for a date well within a week of chatting, depending on the frequency of chats.