So my summer holidays are going on, I live a college hostel barely interact with any girl there yeah in a college, stay all day in dorm room because all my friend’s in college are nerds who sit in their room all day to just studying and I feel scared to hangout with the cool kids because of my low confidence and self esteem
I shit my pants trying to approach girls in college and one of my biggest fear is getting rejected by multiple girls in the hostel and then all this turing into a rumour and then people in my college making fun of me or me having to face those girls who rejected me daily.
I hope you get my point, now as summer vacation’s are going on, I’m still sitting in room surfing reddit doing nothing productive because my only 5 friends in my home town aren’t that outgoing either and one them is douche with is Aplha personality that i hate hanging out with.
What do i do guy’s, I legit feel so low confident I can’t tell, have no one to talk to either, I wanted to ask a girl out in my college before vacation but never couldn’t and now she is dating a guy, yeah I know what a bummer.
AAAAAAAAA…..I try to focus on life and how i can make my career better/make money and one day that’ll be all worth it, but deep down I know, that my 20s is the only time I can make good connection’s hangout more often, enjoy life and all that because once my 30s start back pain and job will be my only friends, but i don’t have the moving power or motivation to do so, I want you guy’s to be as harsh and brutally honest with me as much as you can, because I know most of you have been through similar things and I value your opinion more than anything right now, please help me out….
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I used to be a needy guy, to an alpha guy (which got girls) and now more balanced. I’d say start with not hating on men or women. Look at those alpha guys as example as guys to learn from. Right now you’re so low being one of them is better than not at all. Don’t worry about girls right now. Go to the gym, focus on your looks more, keep working your job and making money, be independent, and go out with friends to bars and social settings. You just need to learn to talk to people in general. Have small talk with random strangers when you can to practice. Start by just talking to cashiers asking them how they’re day is going and move up from there. It’s a slow and gradual process but that’s what makes it fun. Now you have mini goals you can work on. I can guarantee you, dating will be hard if you don’t focus on self improvement first. Then it eventually becomes easy and you’ll have too many dates to handle. Work on what you can control right now, write them down, once you accomplish that, write down bigger goals and accomplish those. Keep doing that over and over.
First of all everybody mostly have went through such moments in their lifes. As me for example.
Second, you want to be somebody else except yourself, you know. When somebody says like: ‘Hey I want it so much, but I am afraid to do anything” That means you don’t know what you doing with your life.
To be a male means have some interest in life except girls. If you ONLY concentrated at girls, you would get lost in yoyr life. Like now. Females feel you expecting positive answer and being afraid of refuse. You wouldn’t afraid of refuse if you would be interested with something else. So when female refuse you, that not bothering you much, you have your favorite stuff to do. Females feeling it and getting interested in you.
As a summary. All of males went through this. Succeeded only those, who have balls to have their own life, their own interests, they do care about their own emotions, they don’t look around and don’t bother others success.