I’ve always had this fantasy or whatever of starting a relationship with a man and being together for a long while, and literally sitting down at the dining room table to discuss what we like and dislike during sex like a conference lol. Although relationships won’t be happening for a few years, i know that for a fact that when i actually get into one, my partner will have to wait a very long time for me to get comfortable enough to finally have sex/ see me undressed (this is why my future man having patience is so important to me).So i’m wondering if anyone has done this at all? or is this just something that everyone does and i’m just stupid. if it is please be nice…
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Would not be in a relationship without it.
Relationships tend to evolve at different speeds and stages, so there’s not always a discussion about sexual expectations before you have sex. Our expectations and desires change over time, and if either or both of you are inexperienced then they are yet to even fully form.
If you start your relationship in a sit down meeting saying it’s gonna be a very long time before you will be comfortable having sex. That makes so many assumptions about how your emotions will work if you find someone.
Don’t overthink it. Of course you need to shard your hopes and dreams and expectations as best you can but most of it will be going woth the flow.
We’ve done this from the very beginning and even after all these years we continue to have “state of the union” style conversations about it. It’s the reason why m, even at age 42 and with 2 kids (1 & 11) we still have a *wildly* fulfilling sex life. We have sex every single day (usually twice) and he is the best partner I’ve ever had by a long shot.