This is a lot of writing, so I apologize. I’ve been part of a local social group off and on for over 5 years. I’ve always thought it’d be nice to meet someone there but didn’t come across people I was interested in, though I know plenty of matches have come about from the group.
I had been swiping through OLD (Coffee Meets Bagel) and recalled one gentleman’s profile that I would see periodically but I remember swiping left because he didn’t have very flattering pictures. A couple weeks later, I went to an event with this social group but us attendees were all spread out through the venue. I happened to walk by a smiling gentleman that was just looking at me but my social ineptitude had me continue walking to my destination. I didn’t see him again. A week or so later, I see the same guy again on OLD and make the connection that it’s the same guy. I didn’t swipe in either direction because I hoped to run into him at another social event.
We did end up joining an event but chatted minimally since it was a group activity and lunch. I thought I overheard him mention something that I consider a deal-breaker but technically I’m not 100% sure. It doesn’t seem like we’re attending the same events anymore and today he popped up again on OLD. I know he’s not swiping right on me because this app would indicate that. I even mention this deal-breaker on my profile so maybe that’s why he’s not swiping right (?). I do wish this app had more lifestyle prompts to help determine if we had deal-breakers. Oh well. In any case, I considered sending a message with my right swipe referencing the group (kind of like the people who say “if I know you, I’m swiping right”). I do plan to continue attending events with this group. I guess worst case maybe I just pretend I’m a friendly sort of person. Comments?
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Why would you not just talk to him in person? I think its odd for people I know to swipe on me in an app when they can easily just talk to me when they see me.
This isn’t an Amazon product you’re not sure about putting in your cart – if you’re interested I would just swipe right, ask for clarification on the dealbreaker if he matches, if it’s not in your favor just explain “no hard feelings but X is a dealbreaker for me.” Wave and say hi briefly at the next event so it’s not weird.