My (34f) boyfriend (35m) has been stressed over his new job and it’s really putting a damper on his sex drive. He finally gets a day off tomorrow and we’re going to a friend’s goodbye party about 2 hours away. I really want him to be able to enjoy the day and blow off some steam. I need some ideas for things to do that could also potentially spice things up and also have some fun in the bedroom that night. He’s not super adventurous sexually, though, so I also don’t want to overdo it and make him uncomfortable.
I’m planning to give myself a fresh shave. I’m usually trimmed, which he likes, but it’s always a fun surprise to change it up.
I also considered going commando (I’m planning to wear a long dress, so little risk of an issue), but I don’t know when to let him in on that secret. Is right before we go too early? Maybe on the way home when we could get a little touchy-feely anticipating what’s coming when we get home?
And no – full-on road head isn’t an option (so dangerous!).
Any other suggestions for a guy who’s not totally vanilla, but not into super spicy things?
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When my wife hinted that she wanted sex later that evening and we were out, she would run her tongue slowly over the top of a beer bottle. That drove me crazy.
Not sure if these are considered super spicy lol
* Take you panties off in the car when you two get to your friend’s party, that way he’ll be thinking about it all evening.
* Touch yourself/give him a sensual bjnwhile he drives home?
* Change into a lingerie/cosplay for him when you get home (if he doesn’t rip your clothes apart before that).
* Do some foreplay in the shower/bath.
Maybe a remote control toy… It gives him the control to do things discreetly when and where he wants. That could be in the car, or even at the party.
I’ll tell you something that did work for me.
We went to the mall to browse thru clothes and different shops. Most men get so bored shopping for clothes or anything, but you could give him the task of finding something sexy he would want to see you wear. Even if you don’t actually buy it – you can always try it on and let him watch you give him a fashion show. Make sure to get things you wouldn’t normally wear, but he would like to see you in.
Talking about commando… make sure you’re in a place where he can’t do anything about it – but find a place where nobody can see you… drop your undies down … make sure they are small like a thong or g-string so it’s small and easy to hide in your hand. Grannies are a no-no. So while he’s looking thru things – walk up near him and even pass in front of him and say – hey these keep falling off – can you hold them for me? Then just walk away with a bit of sass. Now he knows you have no undies on under your skirt or dress and he’s holding them hahaha.
Or say hey can we go to a store like Victorias to see if they have a sale on panties. I forgot to do laundry and had no clean ones to wear.
I did that once to someone and kept being bad – teasing him and he knew I had no undies on b/c I stuffed them in his pocket lol. He got so frustrated at me – he took me by the hand and we walked straight out of the mall to his car. Talk about spicy – he didn’t even wait til we got to his house, literally in the mall parking lot.. he wasn’t waiting. Mall security showed up, but the guy waited… he didn’t want to interrupt but he knew what we were doing haha.
Yes definitely have a fresh shave, but take your time and go slow so there are no accidental owwies. Whatever you decide about the commando – make sure you tell him when he can’t do anything about it.
Another thing you can do once you get into the bedroom… is get a bowl or a basin to put warm soapy water in with a wash cloth. Make him get on the bed… put some towels down first. Both get naked. Have him lie down – face down first… then take the wash cloth and spoil him with rubbing him down – gently – every inch of skin.. Turn him over and do the same.
Then when he’s dried off… Take some body oil and do the same thing – give him a rub down. Don’t let him do anything to you.. not yet. This is about his pleasure and destress.
Then if you want to spice things up when you’re done. give him an epic BJ and finish him whatever way he likes best. If you can deepthroat, I know that always makes a BJ go next level and lets be real, if you don’t mind swallowing – I have never met a guy yet who doesn’t think swallowing is hot.
Just make it all about him and just say you know how much he’s been stressed out and you wanted to be a little creative and different.
Whatever you do – I hope it’s great
So many good ideas. I would add that you could get yourself dressed up for the party, then start giving him a blowjob sometime before you’re supposed to leave. Suddenly stop, and promise that you’ll finish him off once you return. That should give him something to ponder while you’re out.
Only go commando mid-way through the night, and hand your bf your panties once you take them off at the party. He’ll go wild with anticipation of getting that dress off you later!
I just want to say that it’s so thoughtful of you to do this. Hopefully he can put the stress aside and give your day together all the attention it deserves.
Not long ago, I was a person that let stress ruin precious times.
Be well! Thanks for sharing!
If there wasn’t a time constraint, I’d suggest commando with a hip/thigh harness.