I (38F) am ready to end my relationship of 10 months with 48M. Made the mistake, in hindsight, of moving in together immediately. The property is mine solely, purchased 9 years ago. He has some belongings and has been contributing toward bills.
There have been ongoing issues resulting from his drinking which occured again last night. His daughter was present, though asleep and, to avoid her being aware of any issues from us arguing, I left my home. Drive to my bothers where I spent the night.
I can’t continue in this relationship, the details of which, I’d prefer to avoid rehashing for now. The situation at this moment is that, I’m going to go home, where he and his daughter should have gone out for the day and make sure everything is in order. I have a locksmith scheduled this afternoon to change the barrel in the front door to prevent further access.
I need advice how best to let him know that it’s over and I wish him not to return to my property for both my safety and peace of mind.
Is it better to communicate this verbally or via text? I don’t want there to be any misinterpretation if the wording is not correct.
I will make it clear that his possessions will be treated with care and respect and don’t want that to be a burden or concern that I would mishandle things until a time he can collect them.
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He lived there for ten months and may assert some legal rights on that basis. Matters regarding tenants/residents will vary from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, kicking him out may come with some legal wrangling on the point. You can cite his abuse and hope that’s enough. Maybe he’ll simply walk away. Ideal situation, that happens and you don’t have to invoke the law. Being realistic, expect some resistance. It may be in your best interest to have some local counsel – pronto. They can advise better than we can on both the specific process and the wording of any notifications involved in that process.