Hey there. 34M, cis, wife 36F, cis. Due to medical issues, I’m unable to hold an erection and bring my wife to climax any more. We’ve been married for 8 yrs. The issue is clinical and incurable, and has been ongoing for 4 yrs.
She’s incredibly supportive of the whole situation, and very loving and dutiful; she hasn’t asked me to seek anything out for her; but I would love to see her feel the euphoria of cumming to a physical cock fucking her well again, and I think I might enjoy watching? Not sure tho.
I’m kinda square when it comes to identifying my sexual orientation, but it makes my heart feel full when people I love w all my heart are pleased, so?; to my knowledge that’s a demisexual? Lmk if that’s incorrect.
Anyways, based on my restrictions, she’ll never be fucked well by me on a physiological level again. But with work and communication, I would love to find another partner for her that could fuck her; I’m sure there are cool people out there that wouldn’t make the situation weird if they were friendly, trustworthy, vetted, and simply chill.
Curious about the ups and downs of that dynamic?
I truly don’t think cuckolding, if that’s even the right term, is a kink of mine, but it does make me horny knowing the guy fucking my wife is a vessel for our couple’s mutual pleasure… what makes me horny isn’t the idea of a guy fucking my wife, but the idea of her being fucked well and experiencing that pleasure.
Also any suggestions on alternatives to physical fucking are very much welcomed, be it toys or anything else.
Thanks!!
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You should cuck for your own sexual gratification because the idea is hot, not because of your sexual incapabilities, the latter is just having no self respect. Lots of people fall into the first category because it’s almost humiliating and a bit like porn but irl, the second option is just a sad compensation that you should have to make, so don’t lower your standards for anyone, not even your wife.
Strap ons, toys or pegging… you don’t have to start cucking or Hotwifing just yet if you are both concerned about anything
Cuckolding often includes a humiliation component where the cuck is made to feel like a lesser man and only a bull (the other guy) can pleasure her properly. There’s a pretty wide variety of things that can be done to enhance that dynamic both physical and verbal.
There’s plenty of guys that just like seeing their partner getting fucked by another man and get off on seeing her pleasure (compersion), but aren’t into the whole humiliation aspect. This kink is often called Hot Wife. It sounds like you’re leaning more into this, on top of it being a practical solution.
I’m in an open relationship and have this kink too. Take a look in my recent comment history for a quick rundown on some guidelines on how to approach something like this, but be aware that it’s not exhaustive. It boils down to building excellent communication and trust and taking your time working things out. This is not the sort of thing you sort out with just one conversation and requires you both to regularly work with each other to find something you can both be comfortable with. It may resolve down to you guys sharing a fantasy about her being fucked by another guy, or you using a strapon, or another man being invited in, or whatever.
Maybe astrap on might do the trick