I started hooking up with this guy about six months ago. It was just sex and I would never talk to him or text him in between hookups (other than to ask to come over for sex). The time between hookups was often at least a week because I share custody of my child and on the weeks I have them I only spend time with them. At one point I went an entire month without reaching out because I felt that I might be catching feelings and I wanted to avoid that. He reached out twice during those times to comment on my Snapchat stories. Since the beginning of our hooking up he has brought up me spending the night multiple times. This last night I was there he even said that I should pack an overnight bag sometime and stay. He also made several comments about how long I had stayed away and how I was always coming and going and even his dog was wondering where I was at. During this visit I mentioned a terrible date I had just had. I haven’t dated in about 8 months since my last relationship ended and had made it clear I didn’t want to date. The date only happened because I was set up by friends and they insisted. I left shortly after and texted him when I got home wishing I had stayed for more sex and snuggles. He didn’t answer. I texted him the next night to see if he was available. No answer. I haven’t texted since and won’t text again as it seems he doesn’t want to talk. Is he interested in me too as more than a booty call and perhaps felt hurt by my going on a date or does he only want sex and just doesn’t see the need to text with me?

***Edit because I forgot to add this the first time. He also invited me on a weekend trip to Jerome which is a cute little tourist town in our state. We made the plans and he said he’d let me know what was going to happen and then we didn’t talk at all for about a week as usual and he never reached out about it or brought it up. Which is another reason I disappeared for about a month. I was catching feelings for a guy who was only supposed to be sex and also couldn’t follow through on commitments to me. Not healthy lol

TLDR: my friend with benefits keeps asking me to spend the night but hasn’t texted me back since our last encounter after I told hi I had been on a date set up by friends. Does he like me?

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  1. I mean he obviously likes you as in you two seems to have great times together 😅 but it’s impossible to know if it’s more than that. Do you want it to be more than that? The staying the night doesn’t really say anything, I’ve stayed over at places just for night cuddles and more sex in the morning. Doesn’t mean I’m in love with the guy.

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