Everytime we have a conversation i feel like she disagrees with me over anything and everything. She talks quite loud, quite fast, and wouldnt let me get a word in. I am shy and introverted and can come away from every conversation with a fast heartbeat and feeling like i was in a war zone. Now i avoid having one on one convos with her, but we do have the occasional family video call and I feel like she constantly tries to put me down in front of our (narc) mom.
Please give advice on how to be able to hold a conversation with her without getting bullied. PS: Explaining my concerns to her is not an option.
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Don’t. Just leave her be, let her do her thing, don’t engage at all. I’m assuming she’s either not aware or doesn’t agree that there are narcissistic dynamics happening in your family, so she’s probably fighting for the role of the golden child. GC while favored on the surface level is a shitty place to be nonetheless. Best option is to stay away from the whole narc circus performance act.
No matter what she says, just say: “you’re right.” She wants to be right (even if she isn’t). After awhile you will see the humor in it.