I may have asked this question in different ways before on this sub but I find myself being very reactive to life as opposed to proactive. I graduated with my masters degree and just do the daily ray race now. No energy to workout with the long commute. No more gold over the rainbow. Now I just think of ways to make more money besides wage slaving. Seems like this is what I’ve worked so hard obtain, lack luster. I didn’t enjoy the ride as much as I could’ve but alas that’s done. I’m abit disappointed because coming back from an international trip I felt so grateful and excited to restart myself. Moving back in with my parents would be a pleasant inter session while I find a place by work. Instead I’m facing the same toxicity from my father, the same longing for closeness of my ex, and the same zombie monotony of a routine. The days go by too fast now.
I’ve used music most of my life to fight those slumps. Still am currently. Would like to know what others do to rage that inner fire.
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You just have to pick something to do and try a small step. See how it feels and go further.
I’d suggest starting with something fundamental, like fitness or diet. With fitness stuff don’t make a big plan, they literally have “7 minute workouts” and whatever. You might not feel like you have the energy but a minute in your body should kickstart things. Being more fit creates more energy and makes tasks take less energy.
Or stop drinking alcohol, if that’s something you do. I learned that I made all sorts of excuses but in the end beer basically killed all my ambition to do things.
Also think of hobbies you could try. Gardening, woodworking, art. I’m gardening and kinda suck at it, but have some fresh parsley and rosemary at least, and had some peppers. I’ve done some wood art and ended up selling a piece.
Finally, you might need a less soul crushing job. It’s a big change that’s scary but I know once I changed jobs from a less desirable one things got much better.
I like to focus on small things I know I can do. It’s dumb but even little things like keeping the house clean or figuring out math problems, puzzles, whatever, gives me enough of a boost I can see out of the suck, even if i’m not out of it (yet).
Good luck <3
Genuinely, I feel like I was in this exact position a few years ago.
It can be quite a daunting feeling to realise you’ve put so much time into getting where you thought you wanted to be, and then actually not enjoying where you are. Day-to-day monotony is brutal, but it fully falls on you to try new things to break out of it. If you continue to do the same thing everyday, you’re most likely going to feel the same way!
If your work isn’t fulfilling, you need to find fulfilment outside of work. For me, working out was an absolute game-changer. I was in the same boat and felt like I couldn’t find time to get to the gym, so I invested in some adjustable dumbbells for home and started from there. More and more I got into it, my energy levels improved massively and then I found myself feeling like I could actually go to the gym. You just have to start creating these small habits that will break you out from the boredom.
Outside of working out, finding hobbies is essential. Just try all sorts of random shit (reading, cooking, bowling, axe throwing, swimming, puzzles, walking, writing, instruments etc. ) and you might find something you truly love to do. For me, work became a lot less daunting when I realised there was so much I enjoy doing in my free time away from my job.
And like urchisilver said, if this does eventually boil down to the fact that your job is a major part of your unhappiness, you might need to look for a different job. No work is worth being miserable over.