I never really understood the urge to have sex, how people feel the need to have sex right after meeting someone, frequent masturbation etc. When people in HS were eager I just thought they were exaggerating and figured I’m a late bloomer. I haven’t had sex in over 4 years, I don’t masturbate maybe I didn’t do it enough to get a good feel. I always figured the right one would trigger those urges but after dealing with the hot garbage that dating apps are I just feel like I lost interest. I know I like men, I have a lot of celeb crushes and I appreciate good looks. I check out chicks too but have no desire to date or have sex with one. I only dated someone for a few months in my early twenties and realized how overrated sex is. I really think I’m old fashioned and if mr right knocked on my door maybe I’d see what everyone raves about. Any other women in their middle twenties relate?
TL;DR: women in her late mid twenties with no sex drive. Odd or pretty normal?
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Not sure what you mean by “old fashioned” but it sounds like maybe you’re asexual?
Perhaps on the ace scale, which is totally common?
It could be lack of drive, ot could be lack of partner you’d feel safe or wanted with…old fashioned? Not sure what that has to do with your situation…people fucked and masturbated a lot in the past as well, as much as they do today, it’s just that today, we talk about it more, that’s all.
There are all kinds of people in this world, so don’t worry too much if you are whatever percenter in a category or what not. Figure out what things make you happy in life and make yourself enjoyable to be around (if you can) to keep good friends. At my work place, I have co-workers in many walks of life, even ones that have never had a relationship in the 30 years I have known them. Sex drive can be very different for each of us, don’t stress about it, get some therapy if you need help figuring things out for yourself and it does bug you too much.
I’d look into asexuality. It is a big spectrum, there are lots of different identities that come under it. But broadly it means a lack of or reduced sexual attraction to others. That doesn’t mean aces don’t experience romantic attraction or can’t have sex. Many can and do, but depends on the person.