So I (30F) have been dating (33M) since March. It’s been going really well, we were texting every day and our dates have been really fun – we share a lot of very similar interests and enjoy each other’s company.
The issue is that the number of dates that we have had in that time have been low. This is due to a number of reasons, different work patterns, illness and more recently sim family issues that he has had.
I was due to meet him earlier this week after work. He had been doing a night shift and didn’t finish work until 9am, he didn’t message me until 6:30pm saying ‘he had just woken up’. I knew instantly that the date was going to be cancelled and I was frustrated as we haven’t seen each other in about 3 weeks. I told him this and he apologised but then said ‘with everything going on at home I’m probably not the best person to be around’
He has a very stressful job and his family situation is very difficult right now. I told him (not in these exact words, and quite a bit more rambling) that although I get that his life is currently stressful, but he can use me as a distraction from it all, I would be happy to share the burden or simply be there to sit with him and watch a movie no stress. I also said if he wasn’t up for that I would be willing to wait until he is in a better headspace.
He read my message but never replied. I left it two days and sent him a message checking in. Have I been ghosted or shall I just give him more time? I do genuinely think he is overwhelmed by everything and is not in a good headspace currently. Is there any point messaging him again or do I just wait? I really like the guy and I thought he liked me too…
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Leave it alone. If he’s still in it, he’ll msg you back.
Stop giving him so much attention. Stop sending follow ups. If he wants you he’ll let you know