I (30’sF) met in real life a guy (40’s). After a lovely encounter and a few exchange of SMS, I asked him out. He said yes. Given some circumstances, we won’t meet until next month.
Communication now is virtually non-existing, but he hasn’t verbalised that he is no longer interested in meeting me. If I send him another text, will it make me desperate/pushy?
Is that what ghosting is about?
I really fancy him, we have many shared interest and I still can’t believe I had the courage to ask him out, but not sure anymore…
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A couple days before you’re supposed to meet up, hit him up and ask him if he still wants to meet up. If he doesn’t answer then he is definitely ghosting you.
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If it was me, it’d be because I’m trying to save all conversation for the date. I suck at talking through text and I absolutely hate having full conversation through the medium, so once we have a date set to meet in person, texting kind of takes a back seat.
A few days (or weeks in this case) before the date, I’ll check if you still want to go, but beyond that, I want the bulk of our talking to be done in person.
Would you prefer that he texts you everyday saying: 27 days to go! 26 days to go!
It doesn’t seem like you have anything else to tell him at this moment, he’s probably the same way. A week before you ask if it’s happening or not. Don’t overthink
Maybe he just thinks “great, i have a date in a month, can’t wait to meet her and talk”. Personally i don’t like texting for anything more than short messages, just feels awkward and unnatural. And apparently calling someone is seen as “aggressive” to some people.
He doesn’t want to screw it up
>I asked him out. He said yes. Given some circumstances, we won’t meet until next month.
If this was me then I’d confirm the date the day before but there wouldn’t be any communication before the first date. I generally don’t care for phone or text communication before a date.