Hey guys,
I moved from Turkey to Belgium 2 years ago. I was in a “Language&Adaptation Program” that lasted a bit longer than it should. I got into a school in March 2022 and im still in high school although im 18.
I don’t have any friends to hang out and im not so good socially. The worst part is, i don’t also have the base for making more friends.
I tried cold approach (What day call daygame) because i was so desperate about getting a girlfriend, i approached girls that i don’t even know and got rejected probably around 100-120 of them (0 succes).
For having at least a few people to hang out, i should make friends. But when im trying to do it from scratch, i fail constantly. I have a stutter and hyperhidrosis in my hands. It is extremely hard for me to talk with strangers.
I searched some events but i also don’t have any hobbies. I suck at football, i rarely played anything like basketball, football etc. I don’t play any musical instrument. Im only going to gym in my free time and start to build some muscle.
What should a person in my situation do for gaining friends from scratch?
3 comments
Do activities that you love with a social aspect to them. If you don’t love anything then keep trying new things.
Don’t approach people in the streets or cold call like it seems you’ve been doing. That’s generally considered very creepy. Try mixer events, being in a sports crowd, picking up an artistic hobby and hanging around places where artsy people are. If you live in a friendly neighborhood you might approach neighbors outside to chat, but not strangers.
(disclaimer I am American and thus so are my values. if any advice I give conflicts with the culture in your area disregard me and go with the cultural standards)
Merhaba, kitap and few more Turkish words I know . Dm me I can help may be