TLDR job interview at same building as my ex and I’m worried about bumping into her and her reacting negatively. If I get the job is there any way I can soften the blow? I have no contact information for her.
Things did not end well. I will be on (I’m hoping) a different floor at least. Very worried about how she will feel if she runs into me there. It’s been 2 years so maybe she won’t care. I haven’t gotten the job yet so might be worrying about nothing but it’s stressing me out. If I get an offer I have to take it, been searching almost 5 months now and it’s driving me nuts.
What can I do? No way to contact her and be like hey you might bump into me so she can mentally prepare herself for that possibility. Or maybe it’s not my responsibility but I’m just dreading the potential of invading her space or making her feel uncomfortable.
I need the job but honestly would be nice if I don’t get it just so I don’t have to deal with the potential of her being around any corner.
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Do nothing. If you bump into her, say nothing. You two don’t have to talk for any reason, so unless she wants to strike up a conversation or ask what you’re doing there, just go about your day
You are sabotaging your own chances by not wanting this job. Surely you’ve both moved on! If it is 2 years, she probably has a new BF and you’re an old friend? Is there something you missed out? Just live your life, she’s unlikely to be pining for you.
Why do you know the building and floor your ex of 2 years works in?
If you get the job, then find some way to let her know (maybe through professional source like Linkedin). This will give her the opportunity to steel herself to seeing you. The shock of running into you could cause her to react negatively and/or think that you are stalking her. Don’t notify her until you get the job. I don’t know her mind, but she may be able to sabotage your opportunity. Best of luck.