So me and her have been dating for about a month and she told me that she has videos of her and the most recent hookup having a sex tapes. And I told it made me feel uncomfortable and asked why does she still have them if she’s with me. And she said she forgot about them and don’t even look at it.So I asked her if she still feels some type of way about him and she said no but she goes to school with him and how do I know she doesn’t. I want to tell her that I want her to delete it but I was hoping me telling her she would say don’t worry I’ll delete it and not give a hard time about it because now I feel like there is something there. I don’t want to come off as controlling or anything like that. This whole situation just comes off uneasy and uncomfortable to me
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I think pretty much everyone agrees that it isn’t okay to have nudes/sex tapes of exes. She should delete them out of respect for both you and the other guy. I wouldn’t keep my exes nudes nor would I want her to keep mine. If she doesn’t look at it and no longer has a thing for her ex-hookup, she shouldn’t have a problem deleting it. Bring it up again and respectfully make your feelings about it clear. It’s okay to be assertive about things like this that make you uncomfortable.
It can’t be tell lol 🤣
My brother. You are not controlling for 1.excercisijg a boundary 2expressing how you feel. We need to do a good job of letting guys know not everything is controlling. I’ve noticed a lot of guys say similar things many times. With that being said I agree she should have on her own come out and said she would delete them. It’s still early on. If I were you I’d avoid the nonsense in the future, because it’s obvious what kind of person she is if she needs to be told. 🤷🏾♂️