So I trusted someone (Person A”) with the fact that I was gay, and told them about another individual (“Person B”) I have a crush on. All was fine for many months, until this friend told my crush about me liking them.
Earlier that week, I had come out to “Person B” and talked at length about deeply personal mutual issues (mental health etc.) However, on the last day of a trip that all three of us were on, “Person A” told my crush about my feelings. He was OK with it, and didn’t immediately cut off our friendship as I had feared. He is really nice, and has been a massive support for me with mental health problems.
My question is; what do I do now? How can I salvage my friendship with person A or B? Should I still trust person A? What do I tell person B? (we only had a short chance to talk about it).
I’d appreciate any help as currently I have no idea what to do.
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Why should you even want to trust person A after they did this to you? Betraying a confidence is a pretty huge red flag for me.
If person B is okay with it, continue as you have been. If the opportunity presents itself you can talk about it.
There is no reason for you to be embarrassed about having a crush on person B, and there is no reason for them to be feel badly about it or angry with you.
A crush is you feeling attraction. Crushes don’t mean you are assuming you will ever be with that person. They certainly do not mean you are assuming the other person’s sexual preference. There is nothing wrong with crushing on someone as long as it does not develop into a need to manifest that crush in the world without considering the other person’s consent.
Get over it.