The one guy I was sexually active with would describe in relatively explicit detail how much he wanted me, and I loved it. I asked him to tell me all the time (not in person, but when he would text me). So I guess it was kinda like sexting. But I got such a warm feeling knowing that he wanted me like that (even if, in retrospect, based on his later actions, he might’ve been exaggerating).
Similarly, reading things (books, posts on reddit, etc) where a man describes how much he desires a woman, how much he loves pleasing her, how much he loves seeing her orgasm, how good she feels, etc turns me on. I’m not sure why, because in reality I did not get as turned on from sexual activities as I get from reading about it (though I’ve had very little experience so I’m going to assume it’s that, as well as nerves).
Is this a kind of kink at all?
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I don’t think this is a kink as much as normal behavior. I assume everyone wants to feel desired.
Meh, feeling desired is just nature human instinct for the most part but if you like get off to being told great things about yourself then that’s almost a praise kink.
Its not a kink per se, its just sexting out loud, its a wonderful feeling and a turn on when a partner describes how they enjoy you sexually so much
I think you might have a praise kink. The idea of someone desiring you, craving you, needing you is quite stimulating. If this stuff turns you on let your partner know and help them try to accomplish stimulating your brain this way.
My wife likes others to desire her and find her sexy and beautiful, especially in social settings .. She likes dressing up and going out and any positive affirmations she gets only fuels her praise kink more. If I want her to have the best sex possible with me I have to get her thoroughly worked up.with my words and praise first. It heightens her own desire and gets her aroused.
This is called being normal lol. Y’all are wild.
It’s called ‘being a girl’