I’m a female and when having penetrative sex with my bf i don’t know what to do with the rest of me. I try to stroke his hair or back if in reach or kiss if face to face but he recently told me that I don’t do much and kinda just vibe there. I’ve been thinking about it and I really don’t know what I’m supposed to do ??? I asked him and he just said like kiss or something but I’m still really lost.
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My advice is to not just lay there. Participate. Act like you want to be there. Smile. Get into it. Touch, touch, touch. Wrap your legs around him, pull him in. Talk to him and tell him what he’s doing right. If he’s doing something wrong, don’t be a bitch and complain, just tell him what you want him to do. There’s nothing worse than a girl that just lays there.
You touch his body, you kiss his neck and lips, you grind back, you lick his ear lobes and neck, you suck or bite his lips and ears. You touch yourself, grab your breasts or touch your clit. You wrap you legs around him and hold on for dear life. You talk dirty and moan when experiencing pleasure. You show basic enthusiasm and enjoyment.
You can hug him, kiss him, bite your finger،hold the sheets tightly. I mean that’s what I do
Ask yourself what you like about what is happening when he’s in you and do things that emphasize this pleasure. Your eagerness will be exciting for both of you
Ask yourself what you like about what is happening when he’s in you and do things that emphasize this pleasure. Your eagerness will be exciting for both of you
From experience, focus on two things: (1) Your own pleasure and (2) communicating it to him. For (1), move your hips, tell him to go faster or slower, deeper or shallower, so it feels as good to you as possible. And touch yourself! Rub your nipples, your clit, whatever does it for you. Then for (2), tell him how fucking good it feels, and how much you love it, and that you love his cock and the way it feels when he fucks you like that, etc.
Oh, also – if he wants more kissing, tell him to fucking kiss you. And if he’s close to coming tell him how much you want his come.
Show enthusiasm and pleasure. But don’t fake it. If you aren’t actually getting much out of sex, you should think about how to change it up so you genuinely enjoy it more.
If you were properly aroused and ready to be having sex, you would know what to do. It would come naturally. It sounds like your boyfriend is penetrating you when he is ready but you are not.