My boyfriend (17) and I (19) have been dating for three years, but haven’t been able to meet because of covid. We’ve had our ups and downs but ultimately, I think he is the one I want to devote my life to and marry. I know this sounds horrible, but I can’t help but notice there’s other people I am interested in dating and they’re interested in me too. None of these guys I’ve liked as much as my boyfriend, but considering he’s been my only real relationship, part of me wants to go have fun with other people and experience the opportunities presented to me. I don’t want to marry any of these guys (I think I’m demisexual so I’m only sexually attracted to my boyfriend anyway). I think my boyfriend would understand this, we have no plans of meeting soon and he is difficult about facetiming me which makes me feel like I don’t havr a boyfriend at all. I recognize it’s not fair of me to do this to him. He’s willing to do anything for me but we physically can’t meet right now. What should I do? I don’t think I’d feel this way if he lived closer and I could see him but I feel like I should live out my college years
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You don’t even know for certain that you enjoy his company in person. Meeting online and in person are two very different things. Dating sounds unreasonably complicated now. You should definitely enjoy your college years.
If you never are able to meet then it’s really tough and he’s barely a boyfriend. Go out and meet people, live your life. If life brings you guys together in the future so be it, but you’re not really together now and you’re doing yourself a disservice by blocking yourself off from others.
>he is difficult about facetiming me
Have you never even seen this guy in a video call?
If youre having doubts about the relationship AND you’re thinking about leaving AND you’ve never met in person AND you’re so young then tbh I think you should just break up
This is what I would call “first young love”. My vote, live out your college years.
After three years, he isn’t going to put any more effort into making sure there is a physical relationship. You’ll be online only with how he acts. If you want an actual relationship, you should breakup with this guy and be with someone else.
It seems like you want to experience life before settling down. If you don’t, you might wind up resenting your BF
One thing I KNOW you are not going to want to hear. PLEASE don’t make marriage decisions at 17 years old. PLEASE.
And yes, take the advice of people who say not to make decisions about a person you have not met in real life.
ive come to the conclusion that i’m going to go on the break, i have to figure out how to do that without him hurting himself. i talked to the other guy’s best friend (who’s also a good friend to me) and she gave me good advice. I’ll try to go the summer without my boyfriend and see how it goes. thank you all for your reassurance ❤️