I (21F) recently ended things (on good terms) with a guy (28M) that I was in a situationship with for four months. We got along really well and had an overall wonderful connection. Things got complex because I was frustrated that we were doing all of the “couple things” but we had no talk of boundaries or exclusivity. I tried to initiate that conversation 2-3 times but it usually went nowhere and we would be back doing what we had been doing.
I know I did the right thing but I can’t help but feel super hung up on him. Partly because I know I’ll have to see him at some point — we work out at the same gym and I cannot move gyms or change my schedule during the week. I know his schedule so I’ve been trying to avoid him but I’ve already seen him a couple of times. We also left the door “semi open” in the sense that he wants to take a week or two off and regroup later this month to see how we feel, and I expressed that I was not sure how I felt about that and whatever happens happens.
I’ve been dating other people who seem like really good prospects and I know I have a lot to offer but I can’t help but still be upset about this one dude, so I guess any words of encouragement on how to keep moving forward from this would be much appreciated 💛
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I personally wouldn’t want to date someone who needed time to think if they wanted to be with me. I take ambivalence and confusion as a no. I would close the door and take some time to heal. It may be hard to see him at the gym but chances are one day you may not feel anything when you see him
May i know what did you convey while bringing up about boundaries and exclusiveness