i (M 25), middle eastern background family, have just recently graduated, as u can see i am a bit late in terms of that due to a tough spot back in 2017 (i had gone through a period of depression and recovery) that left my family nagging on my ass all the time and extended the time i had to depend on them which i hated every second of, it doesn’t make me feel like a man, pardon the old school language but it’s true, and in other areas of life i rather live with a mindset that my father is dead, it has only given me better confidence and independence and not asking for approval, my chief motivator to get through was to stop any dependency on them, i have to admit that the market is tough when it comes to my career but not impossibly tough to get through, my father is getting old and he insists on my role as part of HIS small-sized business but i want to seek other options, even better paying ones and it also seems to me that such a choice could easily put me in dependency/control mode forever, his angry, sometimes, self-aggrandizing shows are reeking of it, but many ppl somewhat think they have a stake and are discouraging me or shaming me against it as a bad career move to leave an established business, but when can i make another career move? 30, lol? too old, too young? any thoughts?
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I think the longer you stay, the greater the chance that you’re going to stay there forever.
There’s nothing wrong with in there for a while if you need to save up enough money to make a career move, but I would still want to have a deadline for leaving in mind, assuming that’s what you want. It’s really hard to change family dynamics, and they’re just going to continue to be reinforced if you continue along this path.