Ok so long story short I’m a loser. My whole life I have never talked back to anyone out of fear of rejection, losing them. I don’t have any friends that I go out regularly. I started going to the gym but I don’t know what I’m doing, I was doing martial arts but I got dissapointed and it didn’t help my confidence at all. I have never had a girlfriend but I’m not that old. And yeah that is a summary my life story. I have never been able to choose a path that I’m confident in. Any advice
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Give yourself a break and keep going! It will get better bro
Go gym, set a plan for yourself, work at it, get stronger. Even if you don’t like it. It’ll pay off for your mental health and confidence.
Have a healthy diet. Big one.
Practice different hobbies. Read anything you find interesting. Do anything that’s considered a hobby. Paint draw cycle martial arts bake. Try many and at least one will stick.
Then network with your hobby, if possible. Put yourself out there. Find people with similar interests.
Put yourself out there with girls. You can get a kick out of rejection. You had the courage to do it and you’ll get a kick out of it. So what they don’t need me in their life. Others will. It’s fine. You will find the right one for you.
Keep going. Keep improving. Day by day.
Okey, so i am not a pro at socialising or life improvement.
But one thing i have learned is that worked for me is that physical amd mental health go together.
And as you said you started going to the gym but you do not know what you do. Aks people at the gym, they know what and how and it wil help you getting started with socialising.
Don’t ask me about romance i have no idea how that shit works.
Sorry for possible bad spelling (dyslexia)
Go do Brazilian juijitsu and kickboxing and show up every day . That’s it THATS FUCKING IT THATSS ALL YOU HAVE TO DO but no you will make excuses and procrastinate because it’s hard to be a winner it’s hardwork being a man . You have chosen to be weak because it’s easy but ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS GO EVERY DAY STOP MAKING EXCUSES OR YOU WILL NEVER FUCKING SUCCEED YOU NEEED WILLPOWER THATS ALL NOW GO NOW GO RIGHT FUCKING NOW AND STOP BEING A FUCKING QUITTER ONCE YOU LEARN HOW RO FIGHT EVERYTHING ELSE IS EASY GOING OUT AND SOCIALIZING IS EASY WHEN YOU CAN BEAT EVERY ONE UP NOW GO FUCKING TRAIN STOP GOING ON REDDIT AND ATAYING INSIDE
KNOW WHY YOU DIDN’T FEEL BETTER AFTER MARTIAL ARTS EITHER 1 IT WAS A STUPID JOKE WITH NO SPARRING OR 2 YOU QUITE BECAUSE YOUR WEEK AND PATHETIC STOP QUITTING
Keep a good sleeping schedule. Practice personal hygiene. Do physical activity so that you end the day tired. These things will help with mental health.
Work on your personal ethos. What’s your life philosophy? Educate yourself on as many topics as possible. Practice social skills over the internet and with peers at work, class or any space you frequent.
Set of friends work like this
Neighborhood
School
Work
Social life
Start to hangout with coworkers….martial arts isn’t about confidence it’s about self discipline…see what ya coworkers are into….if you’re still doing the gym thing…ask a few ppl to spot you on the bench press….don’t stress about pussy that shit will come to you…if anything next time a girl talks to.you tell her you ain’t never had a gf and you don’t know how to talk to them chances are that’s all she need to hear…
r/fitness has a wiki. Look over it, pick a program. Look up the exercises on YouTube to check how to do the lifts properly.
How long did you do martial arts, because improvements in that take years, and its not an overnight thing. Any real improvement in anything worth doing, takes years of sacrifice and constant hard work.
Find some old ex jock at gym to mentor you.
Your problem is low self esteem. Start by reading the book “the courage to be disliked”.
This openness for allowing growth is a mandatory ingredient for success that a lot of people don’t have; you have it. Walk toward this and you will make it.