I’m a 20M in college and I’m still a virgin. Im in a fraternity and have asked my brothers what they think my problem is. Im 5’7 and am decent looking. I’ve heard that I’m to nice and to genuine. I am get along great with all the girls who come around our frat and I feel that they like me they just don’t wanna fuck me. I’m definitely not a huge flirt, like I’m just not great at saying the right lines to get it to lead anywhere. I’m not great at meeting new people(not just specifically women)- this is mostly from my bad times I had at middle school and HS before I came to college. In these situations I feel just like I don’t know what to say to get to know them without coming off strong
If y’all have any advice how to get girls to notice the nice guy’s sexuality more I’d appreciate it
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Pro tip. Don’t give us the feeling that you’re just talking to us to get in our pants. Show some genuine interest, strike up an actual conversation.
You might not get into every girls pants this way, but the right girls.
Or you could just join tinder and Netflix and chill your way to more experience. With more confidence, you’ll automatically find it easy to talk to other people.
Sounds like you might be suffering from nice guy syndrome. As a woman, my experience with guys who proclaim that they are nice but don’t get laid has been that usually guys like this feel inauthentic and it feels like they are being nice as a way to get laid. The niceness of compliments or flowers feels like it’s being given with the expectation to buy sex in return, like the interaction is transactional. Women aren’t machines that you can throw flirty lines to and get sex in return, and niceness also isn’t enough to attract a woman because this is bare minimum.
My advice is to focus on becoming a better human being. Get hobbies! Become interesting! Do fun things for the sake of having fun! Most importantly, start to view the interactions you have with women as having inherent value because you’re getting to know another human being and having fun, without any need to have sex with that person. Once you become an independent and healthy person, the right women will be attracted to you. Good luck!
Good arvice here. Also, make sure youre not an oatmeal man. be interesting and fun.
>I am get along great with all the girls who come around our frat and I feel that they like me they just don’t wanna fuck me.
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>I’m definitely not a huge flirt
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>I’m just not great at saying the right lines to get it to lead anywhere.
This sounds like a good place to start. It sounds like you’re coming on too weak. You never want to come off creepy or disrespectful, but being the nice guy that’s friends with everyone *without* signaling sexual interest at least subtly might be your problem. You can’t get laid without putting yourself out there and risking rejection.
>I’m not great at meeting new people
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>this is mostly from my bad times I had at middle school and HS before I came to college
It sounds like you might have a fear of rejection, which is a problem when it comes to hooking up.