My (24M) gf (23f) and I have been together for just about a year and have been having an increasing amount of conversations about how my family and I make her insecure about herself and have essentially drained her self confidence. She claims she has reverted in terms of what she feels capable of doing and says it’s because of me. I feel selfish staying in the relationship because I love her but when I bring up the topic of maybe parting ways or trying to work on it she says I’m perfect and haven’t done anything wrong and that she doesn’t want to split. I’m confused about what to do and feel like the bad guy not letting her go and allowing her to regain the confidence she once had. It feels like we had opposite effects on each other. What should I do?
For reference, I am smarter and more athletic than her but she is 1000x more likable and better with people than I. She’s incredibly empathetic, understanding, and caring for people in a way I strive to be but just can’t. She cannot be convinced that we just have different strengths, and discards the intangibles that made me fall in love with her.