A girl hooked Paul and I up last summer. He moved quickly. Wanted to move to another state with me, said he liked me very much, needed to know my whereabouts at all times.
He waited to meet me in a shopping center one day for like 4 hours. He was upset we didn’t hook up that night and the following days insisted on breaking things off because he felt I didn’t like him.
He helped me move out of my apartment but was upset that I didn’t wanna have sex without a condom.
I guess I kinda liked him at that time. I told him I had feelings and he said he just wanted friends with benefits. When I unfollowed him he got really upset and blocked me.
We hadn’t spoken in months. I’m talking 6-7 months later. I saw him at a party, we ended up having sex and he dropped me home. Cool.
Honestly I think he’s hot but I’m not looking for anything long term. After our night of sex I kinda just left things alone. He had my number and I told him I’m down to fuck whenever. I didn’t care he had me blocked on Instagram. This is just for sex.
About 2 weeks later he unblocks me on Instagram. Saying hey and calling me baby wanting to talk. I chat. We plan sex for Saturday and he bails.
Honestly part of me doesn’t even care because I have dick secured elsewhere but he does reply to my stories often to chat about stuff that doesn’t pertain to sex.
In my head. Why? Why keep the connection? You had your fuck so? Do you want me to chase? I don’t like you this time around.
Separately, I am getting over my feelings for someone else and I think my love posts on social media might be confusing him. He might think it’s for him?
I’m not sure if this is an arrangement I keep around? Sex is great? Mannerisms are off. Not sure if it really matters.
Just wanted some feedback.
Tl;dr my current FWB is a bit confusing. He’s very social with me and not very eager with sex but wants to interact?
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It seems difficult/toxic to maintain a relationship with someone when you’re unable to ask them how they feel or what they’re thinking about a particular situation. You’ve also posted about feeling trapped and being randomly choked by someone the same age a month ago.
I’m not sure you and your partner can communicate effectively enough for the relationship to be worth it.
It looks like you are both playing games here. It’s the emotional equivalent of “I’m not touching you” on both sides. You’re both playing the “well I don’t like you anyways” card at different times in order to mollify yourselves that you “won” in any given circumstance.
I would stop messing with this dude, period.
Can you DM me your instas? I need more information before I give adequate advice.