Just curious if most guys are able to cum from just a blowjob. I usually cannot, it’s happened before but it’s rare and I have to focus very hard on relaxing. Idk if it’s a mental or physical block or if it’s more common than I realize

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  3. It depends on who’s giving it for me. Usually not the first time but after learning what works for me, most can get to a play where they can get me to cum.

  4. i’ve never personally had any man i’ve been with struggle with it, but i’ve read about plenty of guys online having similar issues.

  5. I do. Used to be easier when I was younger, but if my partner puts in the hard work, it’ll happen.

  7. Have her play with your balls, massage the prostate (this can be done externally), finger your butthole. If those don’t get me off, I position her so I can finger her and that does the trick.

  9. I usually can. However, I’m surprised at myself with the last BJ I got…90 minutes and I didn’t cum.

  13. It depends on who is giving it. There is a wide range of skill levels out there (or perhaps more correctly a wide range of styles, some of which work for me and some which don’t).

  15. I can, but it depends on a bunch of factors. First is (me being demisexual) how emotionally connected I feel with her. Second is how much she enjoys it. Third is her technique. Those 3 things lined up, it’s gonna happen.

  16. We both do! I love giving it to him and his reactions, facial expressions, moans do it for me.

  17. For me blowjobs are only good for heat things up, but never came from them… It’s just not the same compared to the pussy

  19. If the person giving the blowjob knows what they’re doing and has a range of styles and their enjoying it they’ll get it 😆

  20. Do you masturbate a lot with a firm grip? Because if so it can make you need rougher stimulation that doesn’t happen from a bj.

  22. Not sure if you are legally allowed to put words “just” and “a blowjob” in a single sentence

  24. Its actually the other way around for me. I get so turned on I actually cum from giving oral. Pleasing another person is the most amazing sensation.

  26. I think for the majority it is easy to cum from one but I wouldn’t call it “uncommon” that some have a more difficult time.

    Lots of factors I’ve been told. Are they stressed? Have they been very active already that week with themselves or masturbating? Is the other person doing the techniques that are preferred?

  27. Not me. Only one man has been able to do it consistently. From my experience it’s exactly the same. Such a big part of it is mental.

  28. I used to have a issue with it. The biggest issue was death grip. Also, the speed. I spent a lot of time training my self with high speed and hard grip during masterbation. That way when I have sex, I could last a long time. Made it impossible for BJs though.

    What works for me now, is her using her hand along with her mouth. And when I’m ready to cum, she pretty much stays still and I do all the work. Also, I have to be laying down. It’s almost impossible for me to cum standing up, so her on her knees doesn’t work.

  30. My wife can suck my dick like sucking a bowling ball threw straw and I can Cum every time if I wanted to

  31. I’m totally the same. Can throat me for an hour and I still won’t cum… I’d wager it has more to do with actual physical differences between a mouth and a pussy, and not so much a mental block.

  33. Good question, I think it has a lot to do with mental state, turn-ons, and mood. I’ve cum from bjs before, one time my wife got me to cum in her mouth and kept on sucking, it was the best feeling in the world to unload that massive glob in her mouth and have it be used as lube. Watching her absolutely going to town on me, as I squirmed due to the oversensitivity of post ejaculation. But it doesn’t happen often.

  34. I think you have to differentiate here between a pure blowjob and a blowjob/handjob. Only came from a pure blowjob once, cum from the blow/handjob almost daily.

  35. I have not had a reason to complain about a bad blow job because I never experienced one. Out of all the partners I have had they were all great in that regard.

    To this day, no woman has ever made me finish with that alone. Two of my partners accepted the challenge and gave up due to exhaustion or soreness. Not too sure what it is.

  36. I can cum from just a blowjob. It may take a while and Im not sure it’d be possible if my kitten had absolutely zero gag reflex, but…yea….she can definitely get me to cum that way.

  37. Just an observation….but the consensus in here is if a guy can’t cum from a BJ it’s something to do with him and not whoever’s giving it. But if a woman can’t cum from a man going down on her or from sex then it’s said that it’s because the man is lacking in skill or technique. Is it really just that we think men are responsible for sex being good for them and the woman they’re with while we see women as just bystanders who have nothing to do with sex being mediocre?

  38. Sloppier the better for me. And if she has little to no gag reflex, that’s a HUGE plus. You can always tell a woman that’s not into it and only doing it to give a half assed attempt to please you – she’ll take the first 2 or 3 inches, it’s dry, she scrapes… then there’s those that make a sloppy, spitty mess, take you deep and suck your balls, gag and rim you while they stroke you. That’s the type of head game you want that will make you cum. She has to be into it, no different than a dude that’s not into eating pussy but does so out of obligation.

  39. If I’m standing up or otherwise can’t relax my legs I can’t cum, but if I’m sitting or laying down or in some other comfortable position— I cum like clockwork.

  41. I tell every girl I’ve slept with that I’ve never been able to come from a blow job and amazingly, every girl has been my “first time “ coming from a blow job. That’s a life pro tip from me to you.

  42. I never used to be able to get off from blowjobs, but then when I found the right woman, I realized the problem was never me. As others have said, there are real techniques and skills involved to getting the job done. In fact, I’d say the best bj I’ve ever had is at least as good as the best sex I’ve ever had.

    I’d guess the commonality here is not that a lot of men have mental/physical blocks, but that a lot of women just don’t know how to do it. And frankly, I’m sure it’s the same the other way around.

  43. For me, I love BJs because I feel like I have the option to cum or not. Once I get close with PiV, it’s almost impossible for me to keep going consistently without pulling out every ten seconds.

  46. Hate to tell y’all this.. If you can’t cum from a blowjob that just tells me you haven’t had a good blowjob.

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