i’ve had a couple guys do this when i’m giving oral, after a little while they stop me and bring my head up to kiss me and sort of use that to transition into something else. i very much encourage them to give me feedback during a blowjob (like no filter at all), but this sort of feels like they’re trying to get me to stop because they don’t like it and don’t what to say it out loud? could this mean anything else?
i try to be aware of their bodily reactions/the way they verbally react and they seem to be enjoying it…but then that happens
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Can’t speak for every guy but that usually means I am wanting to do other things and not finish via oral.
It could be that the head is good but they want to transition to sex now. So instead of saying it, they just do it. When I’m getting my dick sucked and it feels good someti.es I don’t want her to finish me like that but rather through sex.
Maybe they’re just ready to do the next thing?
Probably getting close to getting off and need a bit of a break before switching to something else.
For me. This could be a couple of things (in no particular order), 1. The head is bad 2. I’m not close to finishing and a feel bad because it’s been a while 3. It’s good and I could cum soon but I’d rather cum some other way or do some other stuff first. It can also sometimes be a bit of a combo. I don’t think there’s any way to know without talking about it. I usually take fairly long to cum from head but once a partner tells me that she truly fine being down there for longer periods I can relax a little and let her do her thing. I’ve also straight up asked partners before if they wanted me to finish or not. The last thing I want to do is disappoint, and after I cum I’ll often need a bit of a break so some of it is just nut management lol.
As a guy, if I’m giving it, I may just be getting a little tired and need to rest my neck, etc. If I’m getting, I’m probably ready to move on to something else. There may be nothing at all wrong with what she’s doing, but I might not want to finish that way.
If he knows he’s one and done, he may not want to cum that way and wants to get to penetration.
It probably means you’re doing too good of a job and he doesn’t want to finish so fast so he pulls you up and moves to something else.
they most likely don’t want to cum too quick.
Sometimes kissing is just fun and it’s a part of sex. Doesn’t have to mean anything other than that.
I think you are over thinking this.
I do this all the time with my wife. She is very good at giving oral.
Sometimes I do it because I just want to change what is happening and move on to something different. Not because I don’t like it. Just because I am ready for the next thing to happen.
Often times it is because it feels too good and I do not want to orgasm yet. I want to stop the good sensation and move on to something else because I want all this good stuff to last as long as possible.
Other times I am just getting more and more turned on and I just have this overwhelming desire to kiss and make out with my wife.
Kissing can be a non verbal way of saying thank you and I appreciate what your doing.
Also as everyone else says it’s his way of making the transition to some other activity and slowing down because he’s not ready to cum yet.
Usually if the sex is bad, guys would tend to tense up and try to get away, not move closer.
I think it means you got him close and he’s not ready to finish yet lol. But he could communicate that to you to not leave you guessing.
I have a very different take on this. It’s almost never because I want to transition. It’s because I want a kiss. When she’s going down on me, I feel that her love so powerfully that sometimes it’s overwhelming. I feel cherished and desired and full of gratitude. I have to kiss her RIGHT NOW! That’s the only message: “I love you too!” I pull her up for a deep, hungry kiss, then she goes back down.
Also, I groove on scent and taste. I want to taste my cock on her lips! I want her to taste her pussy on me, too!
Honestly for me it’s usually it feels really good but I am not going to finish that way anytime soon and I feel bad making her keep going because I know it takes a lot of effort and jaws get tired.
Or we haven’t had sex yet and I know she wants to have sex so if I keep going I know I won’t be able to last during sex.
They hate it!?!
I’ll do that sometimes with my wife. It generally means “that feels awesome but I’m not gonna finish that way. It has however turned me on so much I *really* want to duck you.”
Difference is that I can just say that now, likelihood is that the guys who’ve said that with you aren’t as comfortable with / don’t know you well enough to say it it loud.
Edit: just noticed the autocorrect. Not changing this one.
I really think it’s that they don’t want to cum in your mouth. That’s why I’d stop you. I love blow jobs but it’s more fun to have pussy too and girls get kinda mad when you cum in their mouth and don’t give them anything.
Yep. For me it means I am getting close and unless I make her stop, I am going to cum soon. And I often want to transition to something else, like my turn to go down on her, or suck on her toes or nipples or whatever is floating my boat at that time!
When I stop a girl while I’m getting head, it’s usually because teeth are involved. Ouch.
Don’t assume that you’re doing a poor job with the oral he might be telling you subliminally that it feels too good and he doesn’t want to blow that load real quick just yet because he wants to be inside your body not just your mouth. Also you have to remember that a lot of times someone can get really close to having that orgasm and in their minds they are saying that’s it that’s it don’t stop don’t stop because they know that if they say something you’re going to look up and say what? And you just stopped or if they have a big body language movement you’re going to change the Rhythm or the pressure and the whole guy goes out the window. It has nothing to do with your skills whatsoever sometimes you just got to LET IT RIDE.. EVERY guy is DIFFERENT.. so don’t beat yourself up over this eventually you’re going to become such an expert at that body language and you’re going to know when he’s gearing up but sometimes guys have an agenda and they have one load and they want to do as much with that cock as they can before they lose it LOL
I’ll kiss my partner(or whoever I’m having sex with) after oral whether or not I’ve finished. Becauae it feels right and it feels more intimate. If I physically stop them it’s usually Becauae I can’t resist it any more and I want to return the favor of going down on them, or I feel like I need to be inside them immediately.
It could also be because they’re close to finishing, and need to take a quick break from direct stimulation, and want to continue with penetrative sex…etc.
well i want my girls spit in my mouth 🫦
My g/f usually does that on her own, while we kiss she is usually stroking me.