21M for reference
Dating apps are a bust for me and using them just destroys my self esteem and confidence for a myriad of reasons I dont want to go into here
I’m also wary about approaching women in public because I don’t want to come off as creepy cause i understand women get harassed and ogled at often.
I know some common answers are:
Bars: Not really my scene as I don’t drink, but I do like going to hear live music
Nightclubs: Not a fan
School: I don’t start for another month
Meetup.com/Clubs/Interest Groups: I live in a small city and theres not much going on in my area, however I do live about an hour away from a few major cities.
And I know that if you’re super attractive you can do it anywhere but I’m not that lol
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Do some self improvement and stop being so negative about all those ideas.
Once you start school there will be tons of avenues to find women. But I’ve met girls at the grocery store, church, at the park/gym. You can meet them in most public places or you can try dm’ing on social media. The more places you put yourself in the more connections you open yourself up to.
Climbing, dance classes, slacklining, yoga, straps, sex+ events, pottery classes, screen print classes, sewing class, book clubs, volunteering, protesting, bakery classes, live art class, music lessons, cycling club, swimming club, triathlons, retro gaming meets, gaming competitions, gigs, improv class
Why don’t you have some business type cards printed with your first name and phone number. Then you can initiate a conversation and give her a card and say something like, “I’ve really enjoyed our conversation. Call or text me if you’d like to go out for coffee or drinks sometime!”
That way ball is in her court and she doesn’t need to be worried about any potential creepiness.
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Its hard man, people tend to answer : hobbies and activities. But if you’re not interested in that then i trully dont know, i kinda have the same problem
Work on your self confidence. Assuming you don’t have any deformities or abnormal appearance, then your issue is simply confidence. Suggest you do things, such as working out, outdoor activities, etc., to build your confidence. Additionally, practice getting numbers from women. You will get a ton of rejection, but you are training yourself on how to deal with the rejection, and build your confidence. Each day strive to get 10 numbers.
It will get easier and you may even get some dates out of it.
Good luck to you!
Where ever I go. If I’m at the park and she seems available I’ll talk to her. At a friend’s get together. At the gym. At the super market, while I’m on a run. Just where ever. Just be respectful and considerate. Find something to start to conversation. And let things flow.
Just what till school. No need to rush.
Nowhere
work
Gyms
Half priced books lolllllllllllll or like target lbvs
most of the people i meet are through mutual friends. but school starts soon just wait a little whats the rush
Classes and stuff. Take a knitting class, girls who love knitting are wild chicks 🐣