I turn 29 next month. I was born with a genetic condition that caused a host of medical problems and have been house bound for most of my life. It didn’t help that I lived out in the middle of nowhere and a not-great support system, so my mental health certainly factored into this.
It was about my mid twenties that I overcame my illness. I will be starting my last year on a bachelors and doing really well at it. I also started getting consistent exercise and eating better which has made a huge difference. Have tried working, but for various reasons its still a spotty resume. But things will change in the next few weeks once school starts up and I hope to get at least something part time.
So I’ve essentially been isolated for most of my life. I can’t help but wonder if I can still ‘make it’ in life. Sometimes I feel optimistic and even excited for the future, but it often times comes crashing down. I’m far behind my siblings and peers in every way.
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Here’s how my life went
20: knocked my girlfriend up
22: got married
22: started college
26: graduated college
35: got divorced
When I got divorced, I was making $40,000 per year. I live in a cheap area, so it was decent money, but not great. At the time, I didn’t work out and had no direction. This is what I’ve done in the last 6 years
Started working out
Went to and graduated from grad school
Met my current wife
Went from 40K to 90k.
Again, that is 6 years. It’s never too late. Don’t listen to anyone. Just don’t expect for things to happen overnight. Be consistent. Write down your goals. And don’t give up if you feel like you’re not reaching them, because as long as your are doing the work, one day you’ll wake up to a completely different life. I’ve lived more in the last 6 years than I did first 35.
If you give up, you’ll look back with regret.
One more thing, if you can afford it, go to therapy. A therapist is a type of support system.
Best of luck, mate.
Well done on turning things around.
Honestly you’ll be fine. 29 is still really young.
Everyone’s life is different so don’t make the mistake of comparing yourself to anyone else.